One of the touchy subjects when it comes to child custody is the nature of new relationships, dating and bringing new faces into the lives of your children. For both parties this is clearly going to be an emotive issue, because it taps into many areas of the relationship.
Here are three issues that you may run into when dating other people in a child custody situation:
1. Keeping You Dating Away From Your Children – At least until you are sure that this is a very stable relationship, and that they are planning to be around for the long haul, you should try to keep your dating life away from your children.
This is not always easy to do, but it is essential that you try, because children form bonds incredibly quickly, and otherwise you will be facing them with a sense of loss again on a continual basis.
2. Don’t Try To Replace Your Ex - Don’t try to create competitive situations where a new partner is somehow a ‘replacement’ for the old one. This will end up causing lots of tension and will end in tears. Your new partner may end up playing an important role in their lives, but don’t force it. Let whatever develops do so naturally, and don’t act like a bull in a china shop.
3. What About The Children Of Your New Partner - Where both parties already have children the situation can get complicated very quickly, as you may each have totally different ideas about how to raise children.
Before committing to any such relationships you should be sure to question each other clearly about how the relationship is going to work.
You will save yourself a lot of heartache down the track.